Be a Charmer not a Creeper
Daily Read – Be a Charmer not a Creeper
Is success directly linked to ones charm or appeal? If you feel you need to be pleasing and delightful (the definition for charming) to be a successful networker, motivator or inspiring manager, then the answer is yes – being charming is directly linked to success. Charm has its limits though and you don’t want to cross the line to being a creep. So use some restraint and boundaries (included below) when implementing these tips in using charm to attract opportunities and success:
- Dress to Impress. Clean, pressed, fashionable clothes and good grooming will help people know that you care about the impression you make. Creep Factor: Show personal style while remaining professional. You don’t want to look like you’re going clubbing and certainly don’t brag about the brands you wear.
- Make Eye Contact. Most people don’t trust others who can’t look someone in the eye. Creep Factor: Don’t stare. Be natural, look away briefly and blink.
- Smile. People want to work with others who can demonstrate happiness and a love for life. Creep Factor: Fake smiles and exaggerated joy just comes off bizarre and phony.
- Shake Hands Firmly. That first handshake will make an impact, so if you are in the US, make it firm and direct. Creep Factor: Too much touching or touching anywhere near sensitive areas will raise issues of confusion, awkwardness and potential sexual harassment concerns. Always err on the side of less physical contact.
- Be a Bit Clever. People love to learn and laugh. So naturally, smart people who can entertain with humor and stories are very popular and can command a crowd. Creep Factor: Leave the crass, mean and profane stories to a non-work environment.
- Take a Personal Interest in Others. People respect others who care enough to show sincere interest in people’s lives; it makes them feel important and show you to be selfless and gracious. Creep Factor: Asking too many intimate questions, stalking their personal pages or digging into their desk is considered invasive and threatening.
Excerpts taken from: http://goo.gl/auBhVQ